How to deal with hurt, heart-ache and loss ?

Nothing in life goes exactly the way you plan it. You can get exactly what you want from life but it hardly ever comes in the exact way or at the exact time that you want it to and it often ends up sticking around for longer or shorter than you plan it to.

If you don’t know how to deal with this it can cause terrible frustration and fill your heart with sadness for much longer than it should. I decided to write this article for all of you who are experiencing hurt, heart-ache or loss your lives right now in order to help you get through the difficult times…

“You never get to see it coming, you just get to watch it go.” – Drake

When you think about it, every good thing that’s ever happened to you has kind of snuck up of you and gradually made it’s way into your life and become a part of you. You’re never aware of when it going to arrive (like a new love, business success or awesome friends) but you’re always very aware when it leaves.

I personally still get very sad when things I’ve come to enjoy and love so much are over and leave my life. I’m not just talking about girls who I end up falling for, but also the change when times with friends come to an end or when there’s a big change to my life routine that I’ve come to love. A simple truth about life is that any place is only as good as the people you know there. When one or more of the people you know in a place leave from your life (whether it be through the end your relationship, them moving to another place or even through death) the place becomes a lot less special and you’re left with an empty space in your life.

I know many of you experience similar feelings when losing something or someone you’ve come to love. Many of you struggle dealing with the change and accepting the fact that what you got so used to loving is now no more. Based on my own experience and knowledge, here’s what you need to do to deal with hurt, heart-ache and loss in the best way possible and how to move on…

There are several ways. 

• Make Peace With “Constant Change”
• Embrace the hurt 
• Let it go and look forward

In this case, I would emphasize on embrace the hurt and let it go and look forward. 

Embrace the Hurt 

Some losses are more difficult to deal with than others. I’d say that the death of a loved one is pretty much the worst loss you can experience but the ending of a relationship can also be very difficult to deal with. Everyone has different ways of dealing with change or loss, but I’d say that the best way to deal with any form of hurt is to:

Embrace the hurt, shed the tears, cherish the memories and move on with nothing but love in your heart.

Let it go and look forward.

Console yourself with the fact that the universe has bigger plans for you and that there are many great things that will still come into your life. You may not always understand the reason why your life follows the path it does and why certain things come into and leave from your life but there is always a reason. Sometimes it’s best to let go of wanting to know why, to stop swimming upstream and to just go with the flow and let the river of life take you wherever it’s going to take you.

“Sometimes something needs to fall apart in order for something better to come together.”



Last updated at 8.28pm 24/02/2014.